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Whether you are an
Egg Donor or Recipient Parents, we know that determining the type of
egg donation with which you are comfortable is an important and
personal decision. Our staff has first-hand knowledge of the pros
and cons surrounding the different types of egg donation
relationships, and we are happy to discuss our own personal
experiences with you.
Anonymous
Donation
– The Recipient Parent/s will typically choose an Egg Donor
who has similar physical and personal characteristics or perhaps
particular traits that are
appealing
for various reasons. The Donor’s identity will be kept confidential;
any information identifying her will not be given to the
Recipient/s. The Recipient/s
will, however, be able to view all pertinent information including
medical and genetic history, physical description, photographs of
the potential Donor, and photographs of her child/ren if she’s
willing to share them.
In an anonymous donation, the Recipient(s) will have important
information about you, but you will never meet or know each other's
names.
Many
Recipient Parents and Egg Donors choose the anonymous route because
they are most comfortable with this type of arrangement for many
valid reasons.
Semi-Open
Donation – This is an alternative that offers somewhat of a
middle-ground solution in choosing
anonymous
vs. open egg donation. Oftentimes, Recipient Parents do not feel
comfortable with anonymous donation because they would prefer to
have the option of contacting the woman who shared her genetics with
their child/ren. Additionally, many Recipient Parents would not feel
comfortable with a totally open donation. With a semi-open
relationship, the Recipient Parent/s have been given the Donor’s
profile information, but do not necessarily know her last name,
address and other detailed information. Similarly, the Egg Donor
will be given basic information about the Recipient Parents, but
will not necessarily know more specific information as she would in
an open donation situation. The Recipient/s and the Egg Donor may
decide to chat via telephone or e-mail, for example, but there will
not necessarily be a commitment to stay in touch after the egg
donation has occurred. The benefit to semi-known vs. anonymous,
however, is that enough general information is exchanged so that the
Recipient Parent/s know their Egg Donor (and vice versa) on a basic
level, and can contact her if they have any questions and such. With
a semi-open donation, the Egg Donor will most likely be informed
about the results of the egg retrieval and whether or not a
pregnancy occurs.
Open
Donation – In an open donation arrangement, all parties have
agreed to completely disclose information about each other,
including last names, addresses, occupations, etc. The Recipient
Parents and the Egg Donor, in this case, will sometimes decide to
meet in person before the egg retrieval takes place, and if not
possible due to logistics (location or scheduling conflicts) there
will at least be conversations via email and/or telephone. In this
type of arrangement, everyone is mutually interested in maintaining
contact—potentially throughout the life of the child/ren born via
the donation. An open donation may also occur because the Recipient
Parents have a friend, a sister, or another relative who has offered
to help them. Regardless of whether the Egg Donor is known
previously, or whether she is someone the Recipient Parents have
been matched with via Family Source, it is most important that all
parties have discussed their long-term expectations of the
relationship. For example, the Donor and Recipient Parent/s should
discuss who they plan to tell and when. Additionally, and even more
importantly, everyone must be on the same page in regards to what
the Donor’s future relationship will be with the child/ren. There
are certainly many issues to consider when going the open donation
route, but open (or open/known) egg donation can be a wonderfully
positive experience for the Recipient Parent/s, the Egg Donor, and
any future children that may result.
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